Have you ever looked back and realized 
that the signs were there all along, but maybe you missed them. Maybe 
the phone calls got shorter, or your adult child started saying 
things like, let me live my own life, or stop trying to control everything. family 
estrangement doesn't usually happen overnight. It's often a slow fade, and until one 
day you're no longer close. But today I wanna help you recognize maybe some early 
signs. Maybe you saw them, maybe you didn't. If you're in that process right now, I 
don't want you to wait until it's too late to respond I have four points for 
you on this, so let's dive right in. Number one is communication. You know, 
communication can start to feel strained or one-sided, maybe they stop calling back. 
Maybe their tone is changing. Maybe it feels colder or impatient. Maybe they're saying things 
[00:01:00] like, I'm fine, or I've just been busy, but something still feels really off. And this 
is where many moms start walking on eggshells. Unsure of what to say or do. early 
estrangement often starts in the silence, not in the fights for many families. The second 
tip would be maybe you're seeing them pull away emotionally and physically. you might still 
be seeing them at holidays or family events, but the closeness that you had before is gone. Maybe the conversations are really 
shallow. Maybe they avoid eye contact, or maybe they're just making excuses not 
to connect at all. Many moms are hearing, I just need some space, or You're 
too involved. And that isn't always rebellion. It's a sign that obviously 
they feel misunderstood or overwhelmed. if that sounds familiar, then I would love to 
[00:02:00] talk with you because I help moms walk through these exact moments before they become 
permanent breaks. Now,we'd never lose hope on any of these breaks at all, but so many of them can 
be prevented. And so I do offer a discovery call. Spots are limited. When you're ready to 
prioritize your own wellbeing and invest in your own healing as a mom, I invite you to 
book the call. The link is in the show notes below. Number three is unresolved issues. 
We all have those generational patterns, right? Maybe there were past hurts 
that were never talked about. Maybe that was your choice. Maybe that was theirs. 
Maybe it's a small resentment that built up over time. Sometimes your child is responding to your 
pain or patterns passed down through generations. Maybe they saw grandma do it, or grandfather or 
even dad. You know, it's not the blame. This is just an opportunity for awareness, [00:03:00] 
and that's what I'm hoping for some of you to grasp today, is if we don't heal from this, 
emotional wounds often do get inherited. I think that every single one of 
our responsibilities is to heal any childhood wounds, whether they were 
truly traumatic or something that you are still just carrying. And it doesn't mean 
necessarily that it's anyone's fault in some of these cases because estrangement is rarely 
about what happened last week or last month. It's often about what's been unspoken for years. And number four is clashes in values or 
lifestyles. that emotional whiplash that a lot of you are dealing with. You're gonna have different 
views on faith. politics, parenting, other relationships. And while differences are normal, 
it used to be much more normal than it is now. But if either of you are feeling disrespected or 
unsafe, what [00:04:00] happens? The walls go up, right? sometimes what feels like loving guidance 
to a mom can feel like judgment to a kid, and for some families they get explosive, The 
explosive outbursts or emotional volatility or even past abuse can make connection 
feel unsafe and justifiably so, right? if you're noticing any of these signs open 
the lines of communication. Open the lines of listening. It's never too late, and I would 
rather see you have these conversations. They might be difficult. Have these conversations 
with your kids now where you can still be on somewhat of a level playing field where there's 
still time to respond with love and in intention to where nobody has truly been harmed, nobody's 
been hurt, your feelings may be hurt.[00:05:00] We need to reflect on what's being communicated 
or the silence or the distance. remember, you are not alone in this journey can feel so heavy, 
but the healing for you and the relationship is gonna begin when we stop pretending 
everything's fine and start getting honest. Nobody wants to have those hard conversations, 
so somebody has to give in. And my vote is you. I say, we go first, and so I encourage 
you to really pray about what is, what is it that you're seeing? First 
what is it that you're seeing in them that you're questioning? then try to have 
that conversation, but be a good listener. Oftentimes, our kids are giving us tips. They're 
telling us these things little by little. I hope that helps you today, and I hope that if that 
is you and you're navigating this, you know, I just pray that you can have a really 
solid conversation with them and continue on the right path. [00:06:00] But silence 
or distance is not gonna solve the problem. So I encourage you to just go have 
a hard conversations. Alright, I'll see you in the next episode. God bless.