The US surgeon General declared loneliness, 
an epidemic, which is a public health crisis, right, on the level of smoking and obesity. But 
if you're a mom estranged from your adult child, you didn't need that report to tell 
you that you've been living it, and you felt it in the quiet 
birthdays, the unanswered messages, and that aching space where connection 
used to live with you and your child. But this isn't just sadness. It's so much deeper 
than that. And if no one has told you this yet, your pain, your emotions, your feelings, and 
your healing, they all matter. loneliness in estrangement is not just emotional, 
right? It's spiritual, it's physical. It can feel like grief with no closure. It's 
identity shaking of who you are at your core. It can even feel like being a mom and not having 
a map anymore. So if you're questioning your worth [00:01:00] while pretending you're just 
fine, I want you to know that you're not alone. And so today I have four points for you that 
I think each mom needs to hear. let's dive in. Number one is loneliness isn't just sadness. So loneliness in that Surgeon General's report 
may not have been a hundred percent about estrangement, but I guarantee it was a portion 
of it. It was about two years ago. They claimed that. I think a lot of it had to do with 2020 as 
well. However, loneliness is also a health risk. Okay? So this kind of long-term disconnection 
from someone that you love so deeply, it will create chronic stress in your 
body. Now I am not a doctor, but trust me, I lived that for a very long time. I know 
all about chronic stress and I know all about inflammation and how it can affect your body. 
it weakens your immune system, [00:02:00] It heightens anxiety and depression and the surgeon 
general even compared the health risks to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. So when you're saying I just 
feel off or I don't feel like myself. you're not imagining it. Your whole body, your whole system 
is reacting to this loss. So that's number one. Secondly, shame is what's locking you. So 
many moms stay quiet about estrangement because they fear judgment. They think 
that they failed. They assume they're the only one. I hear this all the time from 
moms. When I hop on a discovery call, it's like, I thought I was the only 
one. I thought I was the only one. Shame will thrive in silence, and then silence 
deepens the wound. So what you're walking through is not this reflection of, failure as a mom. 
It's a reflection of how broken relationships can be in this world, [00:03:00] but you 
don't have to walk through it by yourself. So if any of this is resonating with you, if 
you're tired of living behind the mask as we say, or maybe you're praying for peace, 
but you're not knowing how to find it. I want to invite you to something 
I've created just for moms like you. I am doing a free live presentation 
called The Turning Point. It's on Friday, July 25th at 7:00 PM Eastern. So please note 
your own time zone there, but it's gonna be a powerful one hour session. It'll help you 
understand what's really keeping you stuck. It's going to help you begin releasing the 
guilt and shame and silence, and I'm gonna help you discover a path to emotional peace. 
Even if your child is not ready to connect yet. this presentation, will leave you with 
some strength and a new sense of direction, in truth and in hope. you can click the 
link below or in the show notes to register. And I'm hoping that that turning point 
will start that evening for you if it hasn't [00:04:00] already. I'm really excited to 
see you there. Number three is you weren't meant to heal alone. We always do that, and especially 
in the beginning and loneliness. You know, like I said, it tends to have you withdraw 'cause 
you think, oh, I don't wanna burden anyone. Or you know, it's hard to talk about something 
so personal and then feel misunderstood. We've all done that with friends and family. 
But here's the truth. God did not design you to carry your pain in isolation. I promise you 
that. Community and your faith are not just a comfort. They're transformative, and they're 
necessary because when you can begin to connect with others who get it, your fight or flight, your 
nervous system will stop bracing itself, right? You can begin to learn how to stop walking on 
eggshells for every conversation. You're gonna feel understood and heard, and you realize that 
you're not crazy, you're human, [00:05:00] you're grieving, and you are worthy of care, and many of 
you don't believe you are. And when you anchor in your healing and your faith, not your child's 
behavior, you can start to heal your own soul. And you remember that your identity is 
not just a mom. healing doesn't start with your child apologizing or coming 
back or whatever that looks like for your family. It starts when you step 
into a space where you're fully seen fully loved and reminded of who you 
are apart from anyone else's choices. And lastly, number four is you don't need 
a perfect plan. So many moms wait until everything feels ready. Like what does that even 
mean, right? When the relationship improves. I'll be better when I can stop feeling ashamed or 
guilty. I will feel better. When I have more time. I'll feel better. But the truth [00:06:00] 
is you don't need to have it all figured out. You don't need this five step plan. You don't 
need your adult child to wake up and change whatever is going on. You just need to say 
yes to healing yourself. First and foremost, you need to say yes to support. And that is 
my hope for you. So I hope to see you in the Turning Point presentation on Friday 
the 25th, and so we will see you then. God bless.